At this point most of us have heard about enneagrams. They all of sudden changed the way we saw ourselves and other people. So you might as well also understand how you are effected by wedding planning based on your enneagram type.
If you have never heard of enneagram or don’t know what I am talking about, then you should probably get with the times.. JK! But not really.. Head over to the enneagram website to take the test and find out what type you are! Your life is about to change.
Type 1: The Reformer
If you are the type one, you are ethical and have a strong sense on what is right and what is wrong. You deal well with structure, order, and logical plans. But can I tell you something without freaking you out.. Wedding planning will not always go as planned. The good thing about it, is this isn’t a bad thing. As a one, take a breath as things come up, turn down your critical meter, and have fun along the way. Instead of focusing on what’s right and wrong, get people to help you relax during the planning and during your wedding day. If something goes wrong on your special day, it ain’t your problem!
Type 2: The Helper
As a helper you are sincere, empathetic, and a people pleaser. The important characteristic here is the people pleaser. You need to be reminded that your wedding day is your day. It is okay to put your thoughts and feelings above others when it comes to making decisions, picking out your dress, choosing your venue, and more. As a two you need to love, but you also need to be loved! Consistently ask yourself, what do I need from others in order to continue planning with a healthy mentality? Don’t be the helper, but instead be the one who needs the help for once. You may find yourself actually enjoying it.
Type 3: The Achiever
As an achiever, you are success oriented, and driven so you fear being worthless. You may try to plan a wedding that impresses every one of your guests, but doesn’t align with what you want. Make a list of what YOU want and have someone close to you hold you accountable to stay true to yourself during the process. Take time off from wedding planning to re-center yourself as to why you are getting married in the first place. It is not for the perfect wedding, but it is to spend the rest of your life with the person you love.
Type 4: The Individualist
You are self-aware, emotionally honest and want to be undeniably yourself. You go!! As a four though you need to stand on this truth.. Your day will be unique to you and be proud of who you are and everything you have to offer. Be intentional with your loved ones throughout the process of how you are feeling and don’t forgot to spend quality time with them.
Type 5: The Investigator
If you are type 5, you are curious, insightful, and want to know the why behind everything that exists. When it comes to wedding planning, I challenge you to make decisions based on your gut reaction. You are in tuned with your mind so make decisions while being okay not knowing the end product right away.
Type 6: The Loyalist
Type 6, thank you for being trustworthy, reliable, and hard-working. During the wedding planning process, know that your inner circle is there for you and celebrating each planning milestone along the way. Take in the compliments as they come. The most important thing for a 6 is being able to recognize if your anxiety is legitimate (it normally is not, sorry) and have a release for it. That may be hanging with friends, talking through it, going for a run. Identify what that release is for you. Don’t focus on having a solution for every problem that may* arise. It will all work out.
Type 7: The Enthusiast
You are the fun ones.. you are playful, high-spirited and a joy to be around. You are enthusiastic about everything that catches your attention. Pull yourself back and remind yourself that wedding planning can’t be done all at once. Remember to take breaks. Create a do to list and stay focused on one to-do at a time. Lastly, you will have to make commitments throughout the process (vendors, venue, your dress, ets.) don’t let these stress you out. Embrace the commitment and stay focused on the excitement around your decisions, not the anxiety.
Type 8: The Challenger
You are strong, confident in yourself and thrive to be in control. Don’t let the control take over. Be conscious about your choices and when conflict arises, which it will, think about all perspectives as you come to a solution. In the situations where you can’t have control, be honest about your fears and emotions. Getting married can be scary and that is okay. Talk through those thoughts.
Type 9: The Peace Maker
You are exactly what it is called. You are a peace maker, you fear conflict and will do whatever you need to do in order to avoid conflict. Don’t let other people decide your wedding for you. Make a list of what you want and what your priorities are and stay firm to them. Know it is okay to say no to someone if they have differentiating ideas. Ask those who are close to you to help define what you want, I know as a 9 it is easy to be paralyzed by planning decisions, but instead identify those wants and needs and don’t forget them as you start the planning.